At our birth center, if we were interested in having a water birth, we were required to take a class for it first. I hadn't decided if that option was the way I wanted to deliver my baby, but I knew I wanted anything possibly helpful to be available to me, just in case. I’d read a couple of books that described water births and most were very hippie-dippy, but the one thing I read that mattered most to me was that it might not hurt as much.
At the start of the class, everyone was asked to share the
reason why they were interested in a water birth. All the other women were gushing about
feeling empowered or the connection through the water or some other mushy
gobbledygook like that. When it was my
turn, I said, “I’ve just heard it doesn’t hurt as badly in the tub, and that sounds
pretty good to me!”
The expressions on the faces of the others told me that I did not have the “right” answer and did not belong in “the club.”
The expressions on the faces of the others told me that I did not have the “right” answer and did not belong in “the club.”
You know what, though?
It didn’t matter if I didn’t fit in, because we got through the class
and that meant that regardless of my reason behind exploring the water birth
option, I could do it if I wanted to.
Going into labor, I was all for getting in the tub to see
if it helped. My attitude was if that
was working and she was born in the water, great. If not, no big deal.
I ended up laboring in the tub and while I would never say it was a relaxing experience,
I was able to relax better than I
expected. So much so that my
contractions started slowing down and we had to try all sorts of other
strategies to get her out into the world.
My doula, midwife, and labor assistant all commented on how I looked
like a hypnobirthing mom (which I wasn't), because I seemed so relaxed and “in
the zone.”
As it turned out, Gv emerged on the bed. It didn’t look like the typical bed birth and
gosh, it was a lot of work, but everyone was fine and healthy and we got
through it all. And that’s all I wanted,
without any other expectations. I think
being open to lots of different options with the end goal in mind is probably
the most helpful advice I can think of when considering your birth plan. If your heart isn’t set on a specific
expectation, then there’s a better chance of having no regrets following the
experience.
And if you want a water birth because you’re got passionate
mushy gobbledygook feelings about it, that’s okay, too!
How about you? Do you
find that you seem to be doing things for the same reasons as everybody
else? Or have you realized that you’re a little offbeat and that some "typical" alternative things just aren't for you? I'd love to hear about it! Either leave a comment or email me at lisahealy (at) outlook (dot) com.
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