Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Became Parents - Review

Some of the links on this site are affiliate links. This means if you click on a link and purchase something, I'll receive a small affiliate commission at no cost to you. Thanks so much for supporting my efforts with this blog!

Thinking about starting a family in the near future - or already in the trenches, but want to prepare for what's ahead?

Gary Chapman (author of The 5 Love Languages) has teamed up with Shannon Warden to provide a little help for your journey...

I received a free copy of this product in exchange for writing a review.  All opinions are my own.

Gary Chapman is a familiar name - whether you're an otter, a beaver, a golden retriever or a lion, you're probably have some experience with him or his 5 Love Languages.

In fact, many preparation for marriage classes include his books or Gary's views and advice as part of the curriculum.  

Now he's teamed up with Shannon Warden (who was on staff at his counseling office) to provide you not only with his years of experience, but tips from someone whose home is still filled with children, as well.

The simple cover is both fitting and clever - setting just the right tone for this no muss, no fuss guide.

The book was a quick read - it does a perfect job of hitting the main topics that face parents today.

I loved how each chapter gets in there, says what it needs to with a personal story or two that you can connect with, and then moves on to the next issue - because who has time to read endless droning about a point that's already been made in the beginning paragraphs, right?

I also really appreciate how Chapman is up-front about being a Christian, but doesn't feel the need to insert a zillion Bible verses into every other sentence.  I'm all for relating everything in life to the Bible, but sometimes I just wish an author would get on with things and reach the point more quickly.

By not feeling the need to constantly "prove" his beliefs, he's able to discuss his faith in a more natural manner, which I think makes this work more approachable for non-Christians to read, as well.

Some of the "things" that Chapman wishes he'd known before he became a parent include the impact kids have on a couple's schedule, budget, and marriage.  Other topics that are highlighted include boundaries, personalities, and all aspects of a child's health.  The wisdom shared by Chapman and Warden really hits all the bases!

My favorite chapters centered on discipline, emotional health and the ways we are models for our children.  Chapman continues to expand the information presented in his previous books while discussing these subjects.

Even though I have several Chapman titles sitting on my bookshelf and know that some information is common throughout all of them, it's always good to be reminded of such important lessons - and see these concepts in action with situations relating specifically to parents and children!

As a bonus, each chapter concludes with a "Talking it Over" section.  The 4-8 questions presented are a great place for you and your spouse to start when discussing what you want your parenting team to look like.

This book is a great addition to my list of books that I always hand out to friends when I learn they're expecting (SL, I'm talking to you!  Add this one to the list!)

I highly recommend grabbing a copy to read here.

Have you read any books by Gary Chapman before?  I'd love to hear!  Either leave a comment below or email me at lisahealy (at) outlook (dot) com.

Also, if you don't want to miss a single minute of great tips like this and all the fun around here, be sure to sign up for free updates and then look forward to having each post delivered right to your inbox.

Linked up with: Just Another LinkyFavorite ThingsOver the MoonShare the Wealth SundayDishing it & Digging itWhat's for Dinner?Family Joy Blog Link-Up,  Literacy Musings MondayPractical MondaysHomeschool Nook Link UpHappiness is HomemadeMerry MondayMotivation MondayWhat'd You Do This WeekendMeet Up MondayTotally Terrific TuesdayTasty TuesdaysLittle Learning Link UpTwo Uses TuesdayHip Homeschool HopLou Lou Girls Fabulous Party  Tuesday Talk, Wonderful WednesdayA Little Bird Told MeWFMWEverything Early Childhood, The Mommy Club, Creative MusterParty in Your PJs,What to Read,I Am Pinnable, Christian Bloggers Link UpThis Is How We Roll, Creative WaysHearts for HomeCreative Exchange 100 Happy DaysShine Blog Hop, Try It Like It, No Rules Weekend Blog PartyBooknificent ThursdaysThursday Favorite ThingsI'm Lovin' It, Inspiration SpotlightHome MattersPretty Pintastic PartyWeekend PotluckAwesome Life FridayCreative CollectionThe Beautifully Creative Inspired Bloggers Pit StopWeekend Traffic JamPin Me Party,  From the ArchivesFamily Fun FridayFriday FrivolityBloggers SpotlightMake My Saturday SweetWeekend Wind-Down Party,Friday Features LinkyFuntastic Friday Best of the WeekendSweet Inspiration Link PartySmall Victories Sunday


  1. Ohhhh sounds like a good one!! Glad to read your review and totally hoping to win one,ha!

  2. I actually think I haven't read any of his books... but i know a lot about the love languages concept from articles and speakers over the years.

  3. Yes, I have read 5 Love Languages & would love to read this one, too!!

  4. THings I wish I knew before we became parents sounds like a good read from your review so thanks for sharing with the Pit stop Community :)
    Pit Stop Crew!

  5. Thanks for sharing this book. I've been curious about it.

  6. I never saw this book before, it looks like a great read.

  7. It's true, you don't expect kids to affect your marriage and budge as much as they do. You KNOW they will but never have any idea until it happens!

  8. I love Gary Chapman. This sounds like wonderful book!

    Thank you for sharing this with us on the #HomeMattersParty. We hope to see you again when we open our doors at 12 AM EST on Friday.

  9. Weird! I know I left a comment for this one. Or maybe I wrote it in my head and never typed it.

    I have never heard of 5 Love Languages, but it sounds like a book I should read along with this one.

  10. I have never heard of this book but I wish I had read it before I had kids :) THnaks for sharing with I am Pinnable Lisa

  11. Thank you for sharing this at 100 Happy Days! I saw this book and it looked good. I was happy to read your review.